Today is the birthday of my daughter, Melissa. She is 28. Melissa and I have a very deep, strong, emotional bond and this morning I realized why. The thought came to me how a person's character begins forming right from birth. When Jess was born, she needed a lot of coaxing. I couldn't even help by pushing the right way as I was so numb from the epidural that I couldn't even feel how or what I was pushing! And hasn't that been the way throughout her life. Me trying my best to coax her out and her resisting all the way.
But Melissa, well she didn't need any coaxing whatsoever! Where Jessica waited until the last possible moment of her due date to arrive (11:59pm), Melissa had to make her presence known a week early! She let me know in no uncertain terms that she wanted out and she wanted out now!
Koosh and I arrived at the hospital at 10:55am and she was born by 12:05pm! I had barely enough time to be prepared (in fact they skipped some steps, truth be known) and by the time they were giving me the epidural, I was pushing. The epidural had no time to work and I felt my body's response and worked with Melissa to see her safely out. We worked so hard together and when she was born I felt the release, the relief and the emotion of a job well done.
And so she has been all her life. The "me do it" attitude is still present today. When she commits her mind to something (or someone), it's committed for better or worse. Although she is strongly independent, our bond is still there. She is quick to give me a call to vent, ask advice (which she doesn't always agree with), and share her stories knowing that I will try to be objective. We still work together. We support each other. We are proud of each other.
Although our religious views may be quite different, I have to share this with you. I believe in God. One can't have children like Jessica and Melissa and not.
Happy Birthday, Melissa! I love you and carry you in my heart always. xoxoxo